Here i like to write a topic regarding failure, because it is the thing which i faced more in my life.
Why Failure ?
The main and core reason for the pain of failure is the "DESIRE".
"Desire for someone or something in life". When we fail to acquire the thing we desire, a great pain occurs due to guilt and fear of losing. The common solution given by most of them is to getting rid from the pain artificially.Through changing the thought and think some other, Trying us to engage in some other thing and keep us engage always in any activity. Yes, this can give a cure for our pain. But, It is just a temporary relief from the pain.Only thing we can overcome from this situation is just being aware of the failure.
How can we be aware of the pain or failure ?
It can only done through, keeping us alone and thinking each and every thing regarding the failure and bearing the pain totally."Every pain will gives an immense strength" .Every people concentrate on a past or future, but not in a present. The sweet memories from past are the greatest treasure. But dwelling on it totally is waste of time.And Dreaming totally for the future and not working on it is also a worst thing. To be on a present and and watching the present totally and working on it with full consciousness will brings us an awareness. " The best place to travel in this world is not any where, It is just within us". Just meditate and concentrate fully on present moment and bare the pain of failure to an extent. It take time for us to overcome the failure. But this is a only permanent method for a cure form a pain.
" The scar that imposed on a flesh can cure,
But,
The scar that imposed on a soul can never cure"
While we are in love with our beloved deeply. After building a great trust to an extent with our beloved and when that trust break down and while we losings our beloved. The pain that created is difficult to overcome. But, escapism is not a fine method to forget the moment and sweet memories to overcome the pain. A complete watchfulness is needed to realize what exactly caused the failure and given pain to us. Staying alone with a complete awareness and watchfulness of our activity is needed. Stay alone and completely watch our mind which changes its decision moment and it will change its activity moment to moment. Anger, Happiness, Jealous, selfishness, positive thought and negative thought are all given to a human being naturally.It is in our hand to sculpt our character. Accumulation of knowledge alone will never helps a human to give his best character. However we acquired a great knowledge from lot of external source a pure wisdom can attain only through watching our activity.
" The thing which is hurting us, should never be given to others "
A real human being follows this and will have a great humanity
Some people get mentally affected when they face failure. Let us take a close look on a simple thing.
A Student get failed in achieving his goal, He may stay motive by accepting his failure, or he may get affected mentally for his failure.This can happen happen for a following reasons.
1) May the person will have a guilt for his failure.
2) He may be jealous on other people success.
Here the First type of people can overcome easily by their try for another chance, when he fails number of times, each failure will give him a experience. At one point, his persistent try will help him to reach his goal.
The second category people first have to remove the jealous on other. This can happen only through comparing him only with his growth and not with others. The most common mistakes in human commune is done by comparing one with other. One basic and main thing have to understand deeply is "The only best person to compare with us is our-self and not others". Our present activity is compared with our previous activity will give a great improvement for us. Through this, one can face failure with a great courage and prepare himself for his improvement.There are also other type of people who does not desire for anything. Or his desire will be a limit and he will take the world as such, and travel according to the situation and flow along with a life with a great harmony. For these people life is a flowing river and these people flow like water in river. It will never stop its flow until it reach the ocean. Only a great consciousness and awareness is need for this. When there is a limited desire or No desire for a man the life is so beautiful and He will flow with a great bliss in his life
The happiness is to an extent, when all our desire fulfilling continuously and it make us to feel, as if we are the blessed one in this world. By the same time, while sad most part occurs in our life and we started to feel that we might be a great sinner in this world. Hence both happiness and Sad, depends only on our desires.
When we are desiring for our beloved to a great extent, and the loss of our beloved will give a greatest stress and will give a emotional stress to a great extent. In such a situation when, the pain will increase more and more if we escape from our feelings. While we failed in our love, most people try to go for a suicide. and this is not a right choice for a failure. There are another type of people who try to engage them in some other activities always and will create a temporary relieve for their pain.This are all not a right solution for the failure.
The Great time space is required for our relief (At least to some extent). Choose to be alone and take time to think about the past and try to concentrate on future is a solution for a failure. Hurting us, Feeling guilt always,Stagnating on the past, hurting the beloved, or suicide are all a bad choice, which can add sin to our account. And one day we have to pay for all sin that we created in this life.
KARMA (100 % True)
"What we give, We receive"
"Every action has an equal and opposite reaction"
So what ever failure occur in our life, The best thing is to correct our self and not others. The most wise know only to correct himself/herself and not the surroundings. When we try to correcting our self every thing in nature definitely support us and every thing will be looking good and true. When we discover the truth within our self every thing flow on its won naturally. The bad thing happens so that a good thing also happens, Every thing is balanced in this world , Good or Bad, Happiness or Sorrows and Positive or Negative.Every person in this world has their own problems and Every problem in this world has a solution.
